Closing of the Bones Ceremony: Honoring Postpartum and the Initiation of Motherhood

The Bone Closing Ceremony is a profound postpartum healing ritual with deep roots in the traditions of Central and South America, as well as Mexico. This sacred practice has been lovingly passed down through generations of midwives and traditional healers, who have shared their wisdom and nourishment across cultures and time. At its core, the ceremony is designed to help mothers physically, emotionally, and energetically “close” after the transformative experience of childbirth.

The Significance of Closing After Birth

Pregnancy and birth are often viewed as times of great opening—an expansion of the body, psyche, and spirit. During these moments, a woman undergoes significant changes, both physically and emotionally. The body stretches to accommodate new life, the mind opens to the vast possibilities of motherhood, and the spirit expands with love and hope. However, once the baby arrives, the mother may find herself feeling physically stretched, emotionally vulnerable, and energetically dispersed. It is incredibly common for this to lead to feelings of overwhelm, disconnection, and even loss of identity. 

The Bone Closing Ceremony serves as a vital counterbalance to this experience of opening. It creates a sacred space for mothers to acknowledge the enormity of their journey through birth. By honoring this transition, the ceremony allows mothers to reclaim their bodies and spirits, facilitating a sense of closure that is essential for healing and integration.

The Ritual: A Journey of Nourishment and Healing

Typically performed around 40 days postpartum, but also often months or even years after birth, depending on the mother’s needs. The timing is flexible, reflecting the understanding that every woman’s journey is unique.

During the ceremony, various elements come together to create a nurturing environment. This may include:

• Physical Support: The mother is wrapped in a shawl or blanket, symbolizing the closing of her body and the protection of her spirit. This physical support helps her feel grounded and secure.

• Ceremonial Blessings: Traditional healers or midwives may offer blessings, prayers, or affirmations that honor the mother’s journey and the new life she has brought into the world. These words serve to validate her experience and reinforce her strength.

•Ritualistic Practices: The ceremony may involve specific rituals, such as the use of herbs, oils, or other natural elements that promote healing and relaxation. These practices are designed to help the mother release any lingering tension or trauma from the birthing process.

• Community Connection: Often, the ceremony is attended by close family members or friends, creating a supportive circle of love and encouragement. This communal aspect reinforces the idea that motherhood is not a solitary journey but one that is shared and celebrated.

The Nourishing Impact of the Ceremony

The Bone Closing Ceremony is not just a ritual; it is a deeply nourishing experience that honors the transition into motherhood. By creating space for reflection and healing, the ceremony allows mothers to:

• Process Their Experience: Taking the time to acknowledge the physical and emotional journey of childbirth can be incredibly cathartic. It provides an opportunity for mothers to express their feelings, fears, and triumphs.

• Reclaim Their Identity: After the whirlwind of pregnancy and birth, many mothers struggle with their sense of self. The ceremony helps them reconnect with their bodies and spirits, fostering a renewed sense of identity as they embrace their role as a mother.

• Cultivate Community Support: The presence of loved ones during the ceremony reinforces the importance of community in the postpartum period. This support network can be invaluable as mothers navigate the challenges of early motherhood.

• Honor the New Season of Life: The ceremony serves as a beautiful acknowledgment of the new season of motherhood. It celebrates the strength and resilience of mothers while also recognizing the profound changes that come with bringing new life into the world.

The Bone Closing Ceremony is a powerful ritual that honors the journey of motherhood, providing a space for healing, reflection, and celebration. By acknowledging the bigness of the birth experience and creating a nurturing environment for mothers, this ceremony fosters a sense of closure and empowerment. As women embrace their new identities and the challenges that come with motherhood, the Bone Closing Ceremony serves as a reminder of the strength, resilience, and beauty inherent in this sacred journey. In honoring this transition, mothers can find nourishment for their bodies and spirits, paving the way for a fulfilling and connected experience of motherhood.

To schedule a Closing of the Bones Ceremony for yourself or a loved one, or if you have further questions; email Abigail Maxon of Rhythmic Renewal at PracticeRhythmicRenewal@gmail.com